5 Things Self-Represented Litigants Learned The Hard Way

The first thing most self represented litigants need to do is to unlearn some untruths. No, the judge is not there to figure out who’s right and who’s wrong. The judge is only there as a referee while the two sides duke it out. Too often, we think we know what we need to know, but that’s rarely true. We don’t know the required legal elements in our case, much less the laws pertaining to those elements, or even the procedural rules that define when and how certain motions can be filed. There’s a reason lawyers go to school for this. And then we go in with the wrong attitudes, as though litigation were a business meeting rather than a war. The truth is, absent a settlement, someone is going to lose bad.

Everyone on our small team at Courtroom5 spends part of each month talking to self represented litigants. We spend a day or two at the local courthouse, where friendly bailiffs who know what we do steer us to hearings involving pro se litigants. We try to snag them on the way out of court to get their raw impressions of the litigation process. Even though we’ve traveled the same road ourselves many times, we get amazing insights from those who share their litigation experiences with us.

We return from every courthouse adventure with stories of celebration and sorrow, remembering the times we won or lost in ways similar to our interview subjects. Invariably, one of us says something like, “if I knew then what I know now, things might have turned out better.” Here are 5 things we wish we’d known:

  1. A good case strategy starts at the end and works backward. How do you reasonably expect your case to end in your favor? For example, will you win outright on settled law, or will you wear your opponent down and force a settlement? Based on the answer, you’ll either collect the evidence needed to paint your opponent into a legal corner or set up your motions to bog him down on procedures. That decision leads you to the research and filings you need to do now. Don’t expect to stumble upon a winning strategy along the way.
  2. The time invested in learning legal research is priceless. Judges don’t always follow the law, but when you confidently support your arguments with rules, statutes and appellate cases — and demand the court recognize those authorities — you’ll likely get your way. You want to get acquainted with one of the many free legal research tools early on, so the learning curve will be flat when you need to find something quick.
  3. The style of your writing matters more than it should. In theory, the right law and the right argument should carry the day. But the truth is that nobody’s really paying that much attention. I’ve had both lawyers and judges look at a motion and interrupt my argument to say, “I can tell by your writing you know what you’re talking about.” Instant credibility! But I’ll let you in on a secret. There were times I didn’t actually know what I was talking about, yet the words and format I chose got me through.
  4. Oral argument is pure theater, but with audience participation. Most of your time on a case will be spent drafting and responding to motions, and the judge will often decide these issues without a hearing. On the rare occasion you get to argue before a judge, prepare to put on a show. Spend as much time at your courthouse as you can, and practice, practice, practice your arguments! Speak confidently, assertively, as though you’ve done it many times. Lead with what you want and why, then start throwing your strongest authorities at the judge. Bring copies of every case you discuss, highlighting the important parts, and hand one to the opposing lawyer and the judge as you mention each case. The judge may pepper you with questions, and you’ll have your answers ready, but shut the lawyer down whenever he or she interrupts. Own the room. The judge will be entertained, but as a result, you’ll actually be heard.
  5. “Legal ethics” is an oxymoron because a lawyer cares only about winning. A lawyer will lie, cheat, steal, fabricate and destroy evidence, whatever is necessary. The only line a lawyer won’t cross is the one that gets him or her caught, because getting caught is bad for the client. Sounds awfully harsh, I know, but this is actually one of the more endearing qualities of the profession. If we’re honest, most of us want a lawyer who’s willing to win at any cost. But when you’re on the other side, beware. That lawyer’s job is to destroy you by any means necessary, and if she’s any good, she treats the Rules of Professional Conduct like a comedy skit.

There’s plenty more to learn, but these are the lessons we find self represented litigants learning too late, after they’ve lost their cases. We know from experience that’s the absolute worst way to learn, because every case matters. We built Courtroom5 because we want to see people winning, but we can help just as much by sharing what we’ve learned the hard way.


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September 23, 2023 8:28 am

This blog post says, “The judge may pepper you with questions, and you’ll have your answers ready, but shut the lawyer down whenever he or she interrupts.” Can you give some examples of how to shut the lawyer down? Thank you.

marcin
September 15, 2024 12:17 am

Have you considered the details of reform that would make “Legal ethics” NOT an oxymoron? Is the essential cause here that customers WANT their lawyers to cheat and steal because the clients themselves want to win at any cost? Therefore lying lawyers are not really the problem – the problem is the people who win at any cost? I would favor reform to true ‘legal ethics’, simply because that would save people from so much unnecessary suffering. Or, do you think the ideal system actually should include the lying and cheating. From the perspective of justice and fairness, is the lying and cheating desirable? The answer seems obvius, but if you have further insight on this, please share. This is an important question for the general ethical evolution of civilization.

Hope
Reply to  marcin
October 27, 2024 7:18 pm

As a first time pro se plaintiff, I am shocked that such blatant lies are allowed at all in our judicial system. It’s as if the burden of proof is on me to prove the defense is lying. So that must mean that I can lie too and put the burdern of proof on them. It’s a corrupt system and it will take centuries to reform. Unreal.

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Hope
October 27, 2024 7:15 pm

I have a case where evidence was spoliated so my only real evidence is that I have documents proving lawyers lying about the facts of my pro se claim. Is proving to the judge the defense has lied three times about the facts of my claim, lies they have used to say my claims are false – Can I present these lies to the judge as a defense my claims are true? Does a federal judge take into consideration the proof of defenses lies?

Last edited 8 days ago by Hope

Just a moment please.